An-Nisa’ 4:34

ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُوا۟ مِنْ أَمْوَٰلِهِمْۚ فَٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتُ قَٰنِتَٰتٌ حَٰفِظَٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُۚ وَٱلَّٰتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِى ٱلْمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضْرِبُوهُنَّۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا۟ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًاۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا 

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

A controversial verse for the misguided and ignorant people, those who don’t completely believe in Allah and are clouded with westernised, modern, liberal and feminist mentality they will either change the meaning and tafseer of this verse or be weak in imaan to the point they leave Islam.

There are three facts clarified here which feminists can’t digest, one that men are given leadership, excellence and guardianship over women, as Allah has made men excel over them and its inherent by their nature.

Secondly that women have to obey her husband at all costs unless its something that’s related to haraam, and men don’t have to obey their wives, but can listen to his wife’s suggestions and advice and opinions and much more, but he isn’t obliged to obey her.

Thirdly it’s allowed to forsake women in the bed or hit them lightly without giving them pain and leaving a mark, providing it’s one of the last resorts taken by the husband during the wife’s disobedience and due to her sins. The first resort should always be advising and correcting your wife in a loving manner.

It’s so easy to understand this verse and what women forget is that Allah has commanded us to be just and the prophet has mentioned the best are those who are best to their wives, so why would pious men abuse this authority Allah has given us men, to make their wives suffer ? If Allah has given this authority to men then men need to use it when they are right to use it or just in using it. So I don’t understand why do females don’t understand this and rely on Allah, pious men aren’t heartless to jump straightway to beating the hell out of their wives or making them suffer. It’s sad some men do this but they aren’t pious.

This verse shouldnt be doubted neither it’s meaning and it should be followed by both men/women, and whatever is mentioned here should be accepted by men and women without any doubt and with certainty that it’s the truth.