Asalaam, I’m just wondering as to how you can find a good wife, without even being able to touch a woman who isn’t mahram?

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

I’m wondering as to how you can find a good partner in todays day and age without even being able to touch them, not going as far as sex, but just touching. I mean, a partner would ideally be there for life, and be able to provide for and raise your children as well as have a permanent connection with you. Under the pretense that you cannot touch them, is it not the same as marrying a total stranger that you’d only be able to know through a brief conversation and vouches from family members? If so, it’s very easy for them to lie or have a concealed bad intention. Why can’t you get to know them personally before you mate for life, and then be completely comfortable with your decision of marriage?

I’m not questioning the hadith or the ruling, I’m just asking as to why it exists and the context behind it – and a solution to the problem I just explained. Also I’m not really aware as to how you marry someone, other than meeting {her} father and having a monitored interview as well as your female family members getting to know her.